Divorce and separation have a significant impact on children as it is a hard and confusing time for them to cope with the situation. Their emotions may undergo certain change, and a kid may become stressed, sad, uncertain, as well as angry in the event of separation of their parents. At some point, children may feel guilty, thus, blaming themselves for the issues or even being worried about what will happen to them. It is typical that a kid regards the separation of family as a grieve; nevertheless, their parents can ease this experience for children. Divorce is never a smooth process, but certain guidelines will enable a kid to manage the upheaval of separation and develop understanding and even a stronger bond to both parents (McIntosh et al. 105).
Some of the ways of telling a child about the separation are as follows. First, it is necessary to plan how to inform them about the decision. Parents should be honest and consider the child’s age since younger kids will require fewer details, whereas older ones will ask for more explanation. Reassuring them that father and mother still love them and want to spend time together is vital. The parents should make it clear that their children are not the cause of the divorce since they may develop a cognitive mental issue. Young kids are usually prone to blame themselves for the divorce. Thus, they must be explained that the separation is an adult problem, and there is nothing that youngsters could do to circumvent it. Furthermore, it is essential to encourage the kids to express their feelings openly. Indeed, parents should be patient since children may have troubles since it is a confusing time for them. Though it may be difficult, parents need to let their kids be honest about their fears and concerns, and therefore, respond to any query as sincerely as they could. In an extreme scenario where a kid feels uncomfortable to communicate, parents should find another close person who can relate to the child. It can be either a psychologist, family member, or doctor. To strengthen the bond, parents should arrange the visit time and share important medical and school information.
McIntosh, Jennifer E., et al. “Child‐Focused and Child‐Inclusive Divorce Mediation: Comparative Outcomes from a Prospective Study of Postseparation Adjustment.” Family Court Review, vol 46, no. 1, 2008, pp. 105-124.