Parenting is the process of raising a child from infant level to adulthood. This involves t6he delicate process of providing a foundation to the young ones in various forms be it physical, emotional, social, or even psychological terms. Parenting is usually a choice and does not necessarily need any biological relationship between the parent and child. Parents usually depict certain behaviors and styles in the process of raising their young children. It is with these behaviors that they may either shape or break the characters of their growing children (Prinzie, Stams, & Hoeve, 2016).
There are many parenting behaviors, but the parenting behavior of having children complete any task that they have embarked on is a true value incepted into the growing minds of the children. This parenting behavior instills the mentality that a child should always see to the end of whatever activity he or she has embarked on. To some this type of parenting behavior may sound cruel at times, but it intends to create an understanding to the children that they should always see their things through in life and not just abandon them when they begin going sideways. The parenting behavior of having children finish whatever they embark brings the start-finish mentality and shuns away from the quitters’ spirit in them eventually making them have a more profound character as they grow (Rose, Roman, Mwaba, & Ismail, 2018).
All types of parenting behaviors impact the life of a child in various ways, be it in the long term or short term domain. Depending on a person’s point of view, having kids strictly complete whatever task they put their heads into has several short term effects on them. This behavior of parenting had quite a rather unpleasant impact in my childhood years as it was difficult for a young mind to understand the aim of this form of parenting behavior. Prinzie et al. (2016) indicated that the execution of such behavior from parents might bring fear to the children of failing to impress their parents in the activities the children would be undertaking. In this way, it would further lead to children even be cautious of activity selection arising from this subconscious fear running in their minds.
The behavior of my parents always keen to see me complete whatever task I embarked on led to me having strong fears of not completing a task. Whenever a task is done to completion, I would get an appraisal and commendation, but whenever would act contrary to their expectation, then it would follow with numerous boring talks on character and conduct. Rose et al. (2018) argued that such behavior might at times lead a child to fear to undertake certain activities due to the fear of the consequences that may arise due to failure of completion of the activity. This behavior of parenting was also a hindrance to the childhood fun a child ought to enjoy. With parents exercising such behavior, it was difficult to skip activities like for example, begin a card game then suddenly leave it to watch a TV cartoon program. This parenting behavior often ruined my playtime fun and made me view my parents as too strict and overly possessive.
Although this parenting behavior was a hard notch, it has good qualities in the long term. This parenting behavior has aided in shaping my characters towards a person who understands responsibility and obligation towards all activities I undertake. For instance, if I may decide to undertake a particular project, I would be fully aware of what it is required of me to meet the successful completion of that project. This behavioral practice has enlightened me further on actions and consequences in the real world. As a child, the consequence of doing a particular activity saw it through to the end.; for instance, a scrabble game, and it is with this foundation that it dawned on me as I grew that all actions that I would choose would have consequence in life like the decision to join sports would come with the consequence of commitment to practice daily. Based on the compulsory start-finish way of parenting, I grew up to form a very optimistic character in the way I handle activities. The way of being forced to complete activities will solder the idea that all things a possible and you could achieve them from a tender age and with that increased my passion towards every activity I undertake in my adult life.
This behavior of parenting at times may have adverse effects to child-development. This parenting behavior may lead to children having low self-esteem especially when they fail to do as required by their parents; Offspring may also have poor cognitive development due to the constant pressure from parents to achieve certain goals in simple activities (Castro, Halberstadt, Lozada, & Craig, 2015). Children who master the skill of learning to see the completion of their tasks more often than not turn into the reckoned characters of the society as they have deep values of responsibility and zeal to achieve their goals in life, they usually see the need to meet their expectations as they can no longer abandon activities in an uncompleted state (Prinzie et al., 2016). Learning of task completion teaches mental independence on young individuals and supplements in the schooling process of the child where he/she would be required to complete specific tasks to ensure grading as an indicator of their level of competence in the tasks undertaken, as they have learned to complete their activities at home they will also reciprocate the same energy in school work be it reading, studying or even completion of assignments making then outstanding individuals academically and socially (Rose et al., 2018).
Parenting is a dynamic activity. Regarding this particular parenting behavior, I would plan to practice parenting in a way that the offspring would understand the value of task completion and its importance, but I would also want the children to enjoy their childhood too to avoid the many fears that a child may develop due to this parenting behavior. I would insist on children to see to the completion of any activity they undertake, but I would let them enjoy their childhood fun like cut them some slack if they begin a board game then maybe see a more fun activity like the bouncing castle and would like to switch play, the basic factor I would insist on is responsibility in both their activities and lives in a general perspective rather than coming down hard on them on the complexities of life at a young age.
Castro, V. L., Halberstadt, A. G., Lozada, F. T., & Craig, A. B. (2015). Parents’ emotion‐related beliefs, behaviors, and skills predict children’s recognition of emotion. Infant and Child Development, 24(1), 1-22.
Rose, J., Roman, N., Mwaba, K., & Ismail, K. (2018). The relationship between parenting and internalizing behaviors of children: A systematic review. Early Child Development and Care, 188(10), 1468-1486.
Prinzie, P., Stams, G. J., & Hoeve, M. (2016). Family processes and parent and child personality characteristics. In Tomorrow’s Criminals (pp. 109-120). Routledge.