The society we live in today is diverse and a look at the typical family would reveal different scenarios. Some styles would reveal a happy family with well-mannered children while others would show chaos and strife. Most people believe that parenting styles influences the development of a children and his interaction with the society. It is no secret that parenting style influences the behavior and development of a child and that different parenting styles produces different results at home and how the child goes ahead to raise his own in future. The two most common parenting styles are the authoritarian and permissive parenting styles. Their most common similarities include the influence of religious teachings and bias to one’s own style. Their differences include the type of music listened to at home and restrictions on watching television.
Authoritarian Parenting Style
Authoritarian parents often impose strict rules and are always in control without expressing affection or warmth towards the children. They often lay down strict standards and criticize their children if they fail the standards. They command children to do what they want and do not provide choices or options (Benson & Haith, 2009). Children are not explained to why they have to do certain things and not others. This style of parenting may not be good because it is forceful and makes children less social. In addition, children from such families tend to perform moderately well, have higher levels of depressions and lower self-esteem.
Permissive Parenting Style
Permissive parents tend to be the opposite of authoritarian parents as they set few rules if any for their children. Children are often given the freedom to do whatever they like and as a result find it difficult to getting along with people (Benson & Haith, 2009). Children raised by permissive parents often feel dependent and insecure due to lack of direction, model and routine that is crucial for any child to have confidence (Benson & Haith, 2009). Such children in most cases have low levels of responsibility and tend to depend on others. Unfortunately, they are also more likely to engage themselves in bad company and abuse drugs.
Despite the differences, both the parenting styles also have certain similarities. Parents who use either of the two parenting styles are always bias. They are never ready for their parenting methods to be critically analyzed. It means that parents believe that their parenting styles are always correct (Benson & Haith, 2009). Both of them raise their children the same way they were raised. Parents raised in families that are loving will also raise their children with a lot of love. Similarly, those raised in a permissive structure where rules and standards can be ignored will also tend to practice the same with their children. Beliefs in religion or a higher power affects parents of both parenting styles. A Christian family will raise their children within the values of Christianity while parents with no belief in a higher power will be more liberal.
Between the age of 2 and 15 years, parenting styles can greatly influence a child’s behavior in the classroom. Mostly, these revolve around self-esteem, motivation, self-discipline, behavior and socialization. Children raised by authoritarian parents are often unhappy and anxious in the classroom (Maag, 2012). They tend to keep quiet and not respond to questions in class. They normally do not handle frustrations in class so well and could even be violent if provoked by other students. Typically, they perform well as there are high expectations from their parents. Children from permissive parents may not be social in classroom and may give up easily. They are also ill-disciplined not only towards teachers but to fellow students (Maag, 2012). Their self-esteem may also be low and become defiant if they behavior is challenged.
Modifications in parenting can create a positive family environment that allow kids to grow into responsible people in the society. Parents need to modify the physical, emotional and mental environment to ensure their children develop without major problems. Parents should ensure that the physical environment is conducive for the children (In Narváez, 2016). They should provide toys and activities to develop the brain of a child. They should also engage children with books and puzzles to develop their intelligence. Clutter should be kept at a minimum and pleasant scents encouraged to lift their moods. On the mental environment, parents should keep their children away from things that are not appropriate for their age, be role models, ensure proper health and nutrition and nurture the child’s self-esteem and confidence (In Narváez, 2016). In the emotional environment, the parent should respect the child, be fair and reasonable in discipline, avoid comparing children and allow each child to express his/her feelings.
In conclusion, authoritarian and permissive parenting styles are the most common. They have major differences but few similarities. Authoritarian parents are stricter and strictly observe rules and standards. Permissive parents are less strict and allow children to make decisions. These parenting styles affect children in classrooms in terms of self-esteem, responsibility, motivation and socialization. Parents hence modify the emotional, physical and mental environment to ensure a positive parenting environment.
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In Narváez, D. (2016). Contexts for young child flourishing: Evolution, family, and society.
Maag, John W. (2012). Challenging Classroom Behaviors: Overcoming Resistance Through Uniquely Audacious Intervemtions. Dude Pub.