Part A: Styles of Parenting
Parenting is an important aspect of life as it helps to mold a child to the person he or she becomes. Successful parenting is not an easy task as it involves controlling many aspects of life. Parents, therefore, play a vital part in the life of their children. It is the role of the parents to support children in every step they take through letting the children aware that they have their support (June, 2013). There are three styles of parenting: authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Different styles of parenting are demonstrated through the manner different parents handle their children in various situations. To understand the styles of parenting, movies or films can be used to provide practical explanations.
A film entitled Brave demonstrates this style of parenting more profoundly. In the film, a mother, Queen Elinor, tries to make her daughter a more responsible person through the use of force. The authoritarian style of parenting, therefore, involves a demanding parent who does not provide a child with the possibility to give feedback (Smetana, 2017). Due to the high expectations of the parents who use this style of parenting, punishment is usually applied if their expectations are not met. Corporal punishment and yelling are some of the ways used to discipline in this style. However, such style of parenting has negative impacts on the child as some children tend to become very aggressive (Smetana, 2017). The children become shy due to low self-esteem, regard obedience and success highly and may conform to gangs.
Authoritative style of parenting is best demonstrated in The Cosby Show. In the show, Dr. Huxtable tries to guide his son to be a goal-oriented person in life. Authoritative style of parenting is argumentatively the best style of parenting since, unlike in authoritarian style, the parents give a child the possibility to respond (Smetana, 2017). The expectations of parents who adopt this style of parenting include independence, maturity, and cooperation from the children. The aftermath of the style is that the children become independent, can express themselves adequately, are understanding and have fewer teen problems (Smetana, 2017).
Permissive style of parenting is well-demonstrated in the movie Mean Girls where the mother states that the girls could do whatever they want. Parents who adopt this style do not expect any level of maturity from the children, hence becoming friendlier than normal parents. The parents demand less and do little to control the behavior of their children (Smetana, 2017). Permissive style of parenting leads to the lack of discipline, egocentrism, and poor social skills (June, 2013).
Part B: Effective Communication
Effective communication can be described as when the sender and the receiver understand the meaning of message being relayed through listening carefully and make the sender feel understood by providing the necessary response. In parent-child relationships, effective communication is, therefore, where the child listens to the parent and responds where necessary and vice-versa (Hook & Vass, 2014). Parents can use effective communication to interact with their children so that they can know their progress at school and in life generally. Where there is effective communication, problems will be addressed properly when they arise. Effective communication can be used to help parents know when there is a change of behavior in their children and correct them where necessary (Hook & Vass, 2014). Thus, communicating effectively is paramount in establishing long-lasting relationships with a son or daughter. A lot of patience is necessary for a parent to understand different temperaments by a child. Such understanding is vital as one can have the best experience with a child, hence good parenting.
Part C: Scenario
From the scenario, it is clear that two children are from different backgrounds. The type of consequence that fits in this situation is the logical consequence. The logical consequence is one in which behavior has been intentionally planned (Hook & Vass, 2014). Basilo has been raised differently compared to Salena. While Basilo believes that men can cook, to Salena it is something new, probably something she has never seen or heard. It is different environments in which the two children had varied experiene, which causes this difference. It is a logical consequence since the parents of the both children have intentionally made the two believe in the different ways they do (Hook & Vass, 2014). Another reason why it is a logical consequence is that the children have been raised with the notion that their beliefs are always right. Basilo believes that men can cook while Salena is against the idea. The unending tug-of-war shows that no one is willing to admit that their viewpoint is wrong. Finally, it can be argued that Basilo has an authoritative parent who allows interactions, unlike Salena’s parents.
Choosing the right parenting style is crucial as it determines a lot in the life of a child. Authoritative parenting is the best style since interactions between parents and children are possible allowing the two address any challenges that might arise from either party easily. Despite the fact that the style is time-consuming, it molds children to people who can address life challenges with ease. Effective communication is necessary for parenting as it helps to create better relationships between children and their parents.
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June, H. (2013). Parenting. Aspire Press.
Smetana, J. G. (2017). Current research on parenting styles, dimensions, and beliefs. Current Opinion in Psychology, 15, 19-25. http://doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2017.02.012